Wednesday, July 18, 2012

School Resources - Getting access to what your child deserves

Hello again,

Are you like me, frustrated with the school system and options in place for special needs children?  Where I live, you will be reported to the Ministry of Children and Families for not forcing medication on your special child.  I went through several years of pop-in visits by the Ministry along with scathing parenting reports from teachers and administrators, all telling me how not to parent my child.  Apparently, I was doing it all wrong and certainly didn't follow their directions, but rather followed my doctor's advice instead.

Going against the school system takes a certain type of person, one who isn't afraid of being told you are completely wrong in any method you try to help your child fit it.  You see, regular public schools are not designed for special kids, even though they act like it is.  Nothing in the curriculum is remotely tailored to a child with a learning disability and if you aren't fortunate enough to be put on the "high risk" list, you ultimately have to teach your child yourself.  I found this book and I must admit, it would have come in handy a few years ago when I was deep in battle with the Ministry of Education over lack of instruction for my child.

Imagine a 6 year old left to play on a computer rather than being allowed to participate in the classroom routines simply because he was a withdrawn child and didn't like to sing and dance like the other children.  He has sensory issues people and all that singing and dancing around just made his mind race even faster and then he would be punished for acting inappropriately in the classroom.

Save yourself some time and check out this book.  Special Education Guide  It may be the shortcut you have been looking for to circumvent the inevitable red tape to school a special child.  Then come back and tell me what you think!

Aspergers?

Today I received a confirmation letter from the hospital stating that Jacob has signs of Aspergers Syndrome and may benefit from a new form of treatment.  I am skeptical but thought I would research some alternatives to medication and found this great book.  The Parenting Asperger's Resource Guide was a great source of information on this disorder and I found some great parenting strategies that have seemed to work already.  Hopefully you never have to experience the extent of parenting a child with ADHD and Asperger's syndrome as we do, and I am always encouraged by reading other's stories of success and failure.  This gives me hope that we are at least working towards a manageable solution.

Have you purchased this book?  If so, please feel free to respond with your own review and tell me what you liked or didn't like about the articles and tips.  If you like, you can also include your story to help others understand why you may or may not have liked the information contained in this book.
The Parenting Asperger's Resource Guide

Wednesday, June 29, 2011

your online persona and what you should reveal when you have ADHD

Yesterday, I posted a link to an article written by Molly who indicated she was okay with revealing she has ADHD on her blog pages, etc.  Is this a good strategy?  I mean, what about employers seeking information about you before deciding whether or not to hire you.  Would they want to hire the ADHD person if they have the biased opinion that you could be considered "lazy" and "disorganized".  I think this is a double-edged sword.  One one hand, you have to embrace who you are and be okay with that person and on the other hand, perception is a powerful tool that can be used for and against someone.

I admire Molly for forging ahead, no matter what!  It takes courage and perseverance to live with who you really are and she didn't let anyone else's opinion stop her.  It may cost her the odd job but with the prevalence of ADHD and the information out on the internet about it, I don't think it will be a problem for anyone if they stay on task and do what they should with regard to their jobs.

 

Tuesday, June 28, 2011

is your online persona a bad thing when it identifies you as having ADHD?

Afew weeks ago, after completing my last class of college, I Googled my name. I knew I wouldn’t like what I saw, but I did it anyway. Eight hundred forty-five Google hits later, I was having a panic attack about what prospective employers and graduate schools would find: my tainted online reputation.
Rewind five years. It’s my senior year of high school. I’ve been accepted to several colleges, and I’ve just come to terms with the fact that I grew up with attention-deficit hyperactivity disorder and finally begun to embrace the diagnosis as part of who I am.

(Bill O'Leary/The Washington Post) - Molly Zametkin drew attention when she spoke out at age18 about having attention-deficit hyperactivity disorder.
More on this Story
Accepting that I had attention issues was a breakthrough for me. I had spent my entire academic career struggling with shame and stigma. I hated being labeled ADHD; it made me feel as if people would think I was hyper, lazy, unmotivated and unfocused, which simply wasn’t the case. I remember finding it hard to resist chatting with my classmates when we were supposed to be doing assignments, and I was always doing my homework at the very last minute, but I also remember my teachers telling me I was a “bright” little girl. I was creative, I liked to work hard and I got good grades. Yet even when people told me I was bright, it felt as if they were saying, “You’re bright . . . for someone who has an attention problem.” I truly hated having my teachers and my parents think I was abnormal or flawed.
During my senior year of high school, however, I learned that a family friend with whom I was close had ADHD and wasn’t ashamed of it at all. She was beautiful, popular and smart, and she freely broadcast the fact that she was living with ADHD and taking stimulant medications to treat it. Somehow, her open attitude relieved me. I began to think, “Hey, if she has ADHD and people still think she’s cool, no one’s opinion of me will change if I ‘come out’ with the fact that I have it, too.”
I was right. I was finally able to tell my friends and my lacrosse teammates that I had ADHD, and no one’s opinion or attitude toward me changed at all. In fact, in many ways, it made people understand me better.
Around the same time, my father (who happens to be an ADHD researcher) was contacted by the organizer of a National Institutes of Health forum who was looking for speakers for an upcoming ADHD lecture series. The organizer needed a specialist as well as a person living with the disorder to speak at the forum. My dad agreed to speak and suggested that I offer my personal perspective.
Several weeks later, I found myself in front of a large audience at NIH recounting my struggles and triumphs living with ADHD. Not long after the NIH forum, I was asked to publish the lecture in a scholarly journal, and I was contacted by a reporter from The Post to discuss what it was like being a young woman with ADHD. Until that point, ADHD had been more frequently diagnosed in young men, but interest was finally shifting toward women.
Suddenly, I was the poster child for female ADHD. My picture was on the front page of The Post’s Health section, and I was even invited to be a speaker at the Canadian Children and Adults With Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder conference in Toronto. “Cool!” I thought, “I’m famous!”

Saturday, June 25, 2011

40 of the best blogs on ADHD

I found this great resource for 40 of the best ADHD blogs from http://www.onlineuniversities.com/blog/2011/04/40-best-blogs-for-adhd-parents-educators/


ADHD is an often misunderstood and misdiagnosed condition, which can make life hard for those who suffer from it, especially as children. That’s why it’s essential for parents and educators who work with these kids to learn all they can about ADHD. With the right support and help, children with ADHD can be successful in school, college, careers and beyond and the earlier they start getting that support and help, the better. Here are 40 blogs that can be great resources for anyone working with ADHD children, offering information, advice, news and some inspiration to keep kids and parents motivated.
General
These blogs are great educational sources for those looking to learn about ADHD.
  1. Primarily Inattentive ADD: Visit this blog to learn about ADD and ADHD treatments, causes and news. Recommended Post: "ADHD Inattentive in Girls."
  2. CHADD Leadership Blog: The Children and Adults with ADHD group shares some advice and information on the condition here through Dr. Ruth Hughes. Recommended Post: "Can School Be a Positive Turning Point for Children with ADHD?"
  3. About.com ADD/ ADHD Blog: If you’re looking for the basics on the condition, this About.com blog is a great place to start understanding ADD and ADHD. Recommended Post: "A Hopeful Message to Parents from a Parent."
  4. Families.com Special Needs Blog: While not all the posts on this blog are focused on ADHD, parents will find regular postings on the condition that can be a big help. Recommended Post: "Tips To Help Kids With ADHD Communicate."
  5. 4 ADHD: Parents of children and teens with ADHD can use this site to find information and support that can help them better teach and work with their children. Recommended Post: "ADHD Impairs Kids’ Ability to Turn Off ‘Daydreaming Switch’."
  6. ADHD Awareness: Dedicated to empowering children, parents and educators, this site is an amazing resource for anyone hoping to learn more about ADHD. Recommended Post: "Using the Feingold Diet."
  7. ADHD Action.com: While not updated super regularly, this blog is nonetheless a good place to learn more about ADD and ADHD. Recommended Post: "ADHD Experts Round Table."
  8. The ADHD Information Library: No matter what kind of information you’re looking for on ADHD, you’re bound to find it here, with not only a helpful blog, but tools to help you better understand treatment, diet and screening. Recommended Post: "Quotes for Inspiration."
  9. ADHD Specialists: This company works to help children with ADHD thrive, and their blog offers free tips, inspiration and advice for parents and teachers. Recommended Post: "ADHD Comes in Different Types."
Psychology and Brain Science
Learn more about how the brain works on these blogs, something that can help you better work with an ADHD child.
  1. CorePsych Blog: While the blog deals with larger psychology issues, readers will find a large number of posts dedicated to ADHD research. Recommended Post: "The Patient’s Guide for ADHD Medications."
  2. SharpBrains: Parents and ADHD kids can help improve their brain fitness and learn more about treating the condition here. Recommended Post: "The Ten Habits of Highly Effective Brains."
  3. Stress-Free Kids: Dealing with ADHD can be a stressful process, but stress isn’t something that helps any child thrive. Learn how to reduce the anxiety in your child and become a happier parent here. Recommended Post: "Teachers & Childcare Providers’ Impact On A Child’s Self-Esteem."
  4. Brain Rules: You’ll find tips for "surviving and thriving at work, home and school" on this brain blog. Recommended Post: "The #1 mistake parents make with praise."
  5. Early Childhood Brain Insights: Understand the development of your child’s brain and the effects ADHD might have on how they behave here. Recommended Post: "The Brain Is Naturally Motivated To Learn."
Parenting
These parenting blogs share stories of parents raising kids with ADHD.
  1. A Mom’s View of ADHD: See what life with an ADHD kid is like for this mom, and find links to resources, products and information that can help. Recommended Post: "creating calm."
  2. ADD Moms: Here you’ll find a group of moms with kids who have ADD and ADHD offering up support and shared experiences that can help make raising an ADHD child a little easier. Recommended Post: "Memories and ADHD."
  3. Life with ADHD: This dad shares news, information and research about ADD/ADHD here. Recommended Post: "The Truth About Fish Oil and ADHD."
  4. ADHD Parenting Blog: Mom and blogger Kay shares what her life is like, raising a child with ADHD and developmental delays. Recommended Post: "ADHD Growing Pains: When Bodies Change Faster Than Emotions Develop."
  5. Life With Boys: Follow along as this mom struggles to help her children deal with ADHD through diet, treatments and more. Recommended Post: "Teaching Kids with ADHD."
  6. Charlotte’s ADHD Web: On this blog, you’ll get to see the effect of ADHD on one family’s life– sometimes humorously and sometimes, well, not. Recommended Post: "A Day Without Adderall!!!??!!"
  7. Empowering Parents: This blog is a great resource for parents looking for help and empowerment when it comes to child behavior. Recommended Post: "5 Things I Wish Teachers Knew About Parents."
  8. ADHD Doctor Dad: This dad shares some great parenting tips and advice on ADHD here. Recommended Post: "Parenting Young Children: ADHD Children in Preschool."
Education
Teachers and parents alike will find helpful tips on these blogs.
  1. ADD Student: This blog is a great place to find ideas that can help your child or student with ADHD do better in the classroom. Recommended Post: "Bullying and ADHD."
  2. ADHD & LD Education Blog: ADHD expert Ben Glenn shares his insights into the disorder here. Recommended Post: "The Power of Motivation for ADHD Children."
  3. ADHD College Blog: ADHD doesn’t just go away once kids grow up. Here you’ll learn how to help a college age kid with ADHD get through their courses. Recommended Post: "A Secret Study Weapon for ADHD College Students."
  4. On Special Education: Educators and parents can learn more about the latest news in special education here. Recommended Post: "Reading Disability Risk In Girls With ADHD."
  5. For the Love of Teaching: This teacher shares stories of how to use technology in the classroom and to educate kids on how the brain works. Recommended Post: "Help! I’m Losing My Patience!"
  6. Edge Foundation: The Edge Foundation provides coaching for students with ADHD and their blog is a good resource for anyone working with ADHD kids. Recommended Post: "Michael Phelps ADHD is not an attention deficit."
Experts
Doctors and experts on ADHD offer up their advice on these great sites.
  1. ADD ADHD Blog: Check out this blog to hear from Dr. Kenny Handelman on ADD and ADHD. Recommended Post: "ADHD and Food Additives: A Ban?"
  2. Experiencing ADDvantages: Founder of the ADD Management Group, Jennifer Koretsky shares her struggle with ADD on this blog. Recommended Post: "10 Benefits of Having Attention Deficit Disorder."
  3. My ADD/ADHD Blog: Tara McGillicuddy is an ADD/ADHD support mentor and coach, who provides inspiring and educational posts on her blog. Recommended Post: "ADD / ADHD Medication Resource."
  4. School Psychologist Blog Files: School psychologist Erin King doesn’t focus exclusively on ADHD on this blog, but it’s still a great resource for educators or parents looking for insights into the minds of their children. Recommended Post: "Make Homework Routine."
  5. ADHD Experts Blog: You’ll hear from those who suffer from ADHD as well as doctors who study it on this excellent blog. Recommended Post: "Is This Parenting Style Too Strict for Our ADHD Child?"
  6. ADHD from A to Zoe: This PsychCentral blog is written by Zoe Kessler, a woman who suffers from ADHD and writes about it in a variety of forums– including on this site. Recommended Post: "He Said / She Said: Examining the ADHD Life."
  7. Pediatric OT: This pediatric occupational therapist helps kids with a wide range of conditions. Recommended Post: "When a Child Can’t Sit Still."
  8. Dr. Ferrari’s Attention Deficit Disorder Blog: Visit this blog to learn more about ADHD from Dr. Stephen A. Ferrari, an expert in ADHD and ADD as well as sleep disorders, depression, anxiety and autism. Recommended Post: "EEG Biofeedback or Neurofeedback for ADD/ADHD."
Inspiration
If you’re feeling frustrated, turn to these for some inspiration to keep you and your child working towards goals.
  1. A Splintered Mind: Blogger Douglas Cootey suffers from ADHD and depression and this blog documents his day to day struggles with both as he overcomes them and writes not only this blog, but a novel as well. Recommended Post: "Thinking About ADHD, Stillness and Writing Daily."
  2. Pills Don’t Teach Skills: Here, Jeff Hamilton talks about his struggle with adult ADD and how he feels like pills aren’t always the answer. Recommended Post: "Jeff Hamilton’s ADD interview with Tina Oliver."
  3. ADDerworld: Learn to think more positively about ADD and ADHD through the great posts on this blog by a man who is a sufferer of the condition himself. Recommended Post: "The Incredible Frustrating ADHD Drive to Achieve."
  4. ADHD Drug-Free Solutions Blog: Find some great alternatives to medication for treatment of ADHD on this blog. Recommended Post: "What Are Your Kids Drinking?"

Texting and ADHD? Is your child being bullied via a cell phone?

Shane H. writes:

My ADHD/LD son is 13.  I recently decided, against my better judgment, to get him a cell phone and allow him to text.  I set limits of usage, allowing only 200 texts per month with our data plan.

I soon realized that his life started to revolve around his new found freedom.  He felt powerless without his phone.  It was an ever-present accessory that I soon began to despise.

I randomly checked his texts to make sure he was sending and receiving age appropriate messages.  I was shocked at what I found.  His "friends" had began bullying him via text. 

We successfully addressed and eliminated the bullying issue at school and on the bus during the first month of school.  Now, it has crept back into his life.

My husband and I discussed the bullying texts with him.  He confided in us that he felt so much pressure to "fit in" and text like everyone else does.  Having ADHD and LD, he has always had a problem "fitting in" and relating to his peers. This seemed magnified now that he was attempting to text.  He frequently misspelled words and didn't understand when the kids texting him were joking or being serious. This is a common symptom of ADHD... inadequate social skills. 

We mutually decided to allow him to keep the phone but that there would be no more texting.  To my surprise, my son was relieved.  He said he instantly felt better knowing the "pressure" was now gone.  I told him to use me as the scapegoat.  I have no problem with him telling his buddies that his "mean mom" took his texting privileges away.

I explained that kids generally text things that they would never have the nerve to say face-to-face.  He agreed.  I'm encouraging him to actually use his phone for it's intended purpose.... to CALL his friends and actually SPEAK with them.  He's so much happier now and his hands, especially his thumbs, are beginning to straighten out.

Do you allow your ADHD/LD child to text?  Has he/she encountered text bullying?  What have you done to stop it?

Thursday, June 23, 2011

7 Crucial Tips for Parents and Teachers of Children with ADHD

Dr. Handelman has another great article:

 By Dr. Kenny Handelman

I want to share with you a free resource which I think you will find very helpful.
Bryan Hutchinson has authored 3 books on ADHD, and several free ebooks. I’m writing to share with you about one of the free ebooks which I think you’ll find very helpful.

In this ebook, Bryan shares 7 crucial tips for parents and teachers of children with ADHD. These tips are very good. Bryan writes with great understanding of what kids and teens with ADD/ADHD need, because of the fact that he grew up with undiagnosed ADHD. He was diagnosed as an adult, and has looked back on the challenges of his childhood. Fortunately for us – Bryan has chosen to share his experiences and insights to help us to understand better what goes on for kids and teens with ADD/ADHD (whether they are undiagnosed, or diagnosed).
This free ebook is: an easy read, useful, and practical. There is wisdom in these (virtual) pages. I encourage you to claim your copy of this ebook right now.
You can get your free copy here: 7 Crucial Tips for Parents and Teachers of Children with ADHD
If you find the information helpful, why not learn more from Bryan?
You can get copies of his other ADHD books here. (I particularly recommend ‘One Boy’s Struggle’)
And, of course, because this ebook is free – you are allowed to pass it along to other people who you think may benefit from it.
Enjoy!
Dr. Kenny
p.s. here’s the link again to the free ebook:
7 Crucial Tips for Parents and Teachers of Children with ADHD

courtesy of : http://www.addadhdblog.com/tips-for-parents-teachers-adhd/#more-1153